{"id":826,"date":"2012-07-15T13:44:07","date_gmt":"2012-07-15T17:44:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ordinarylegacy.com\/word\/?p=826"},"modified":"2012-07-16T21:31:58","modified_gmt":"2012-07-17T01:31:58","slug":"50","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ordinarylegacy.com\/word\/2012\/07\/15\/50\/","title":{"rendered":"50"},"content":{"rendered":"

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My kid sister turns 50 today.\u00a0 Muriel tells me not to say that because it makes me sound old (not Terri mind you but me. Love that girl.)\u00a0 I\u2019m not going to call her my kid sister any more, not because it makes me sound old, because somehow her arriving at 50 makes us even.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a strange thing about age.\u00a0 At some ages it matters a tremendous amount and then at some ages it doesn\u2019t matter at all.\u00a0 When you\u2019ve been through as much as we have, and seen as much as we\u2019ve seen, the years just fall away.\u00a0 When you\u2019ve learned as much as we have it narrows the gap, especially for me.\u00a0 I\u2019ve learned more about my shortcomings by watching her strength, more about kindness by her grace, more about patience by watching her move around in the world.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m relinquishing my self-imposed role of fixer.\u00a0 I\u2019ve stuck my nose in things my entire life with the best of intentions and sometimes a very good outcome.\u00a0 But she (and himself) have taught me that falling down isn\u2019t always the worst thing that can happen to a person.\u00a0 When asked (that being the key here) I will be at her side in a heartbeat.\u00a0 When necessary (and without being asked) I will walk her through the big things that overwhelm even the strongest of souls.\u00a0 Other than that she is perfectly capable of handling her own life on the way to leaving an extraordinary legacy.<\/p>\n

That said we are sisters with all that signifies.\u00a0 I was reminded just recently about the significance of close sisters.\u00a0 When Marcy and I were catching up recently the memories of her favorite Aunt came up.\u00a0 She was a fixture in our childhood, everyone called her Auntie.\u00a0\u00a0 She died just recently and we were both surprised by the impact her death had on us.\u00a0 I wrote Marcy\u2019s mother a note letting her know what fond memories I had of her sister and that I would never forget her.\u00a0 \u00a0Marcy let me know that her mother had to get to her sister\u2019s side the night she died, no matter the distance, the discomfort of travel, the amount of time it might take.\u00a0 She had to be there.\u00a0 Marcy seemed to understand but I know like I know that come hell or high water she would not let her sister be alone.<\/p>\n

I hear stories of estranged sisters, I hear of arguments that last years and years.\u00a0 I can\u2019t in my wildest imagination picture not having my sister fully ensconced in my life.\u00a0 I just don\u2019t get it. Don\u2019t think for a moment that we haven\u2019t had some very lively conversation, bordering on the knock down drag out variety, but we take a breath and remember our history, our worth, and the fact that we just can\u2019t get through a day without talking. Or laughing.\u00a0 Or using the secret sister codes.<\/p>\n

So Happy Birthday Terri, stop worrying if I\u2019ll use the key to your house to surprise you without your permission, we\u2019re even.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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