{"id":704,"date":"2012-02-23T08:07:00","date_gmt":"2012-02-23T13:07:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ordinarylegacy.com\/word\/?p=704"},"modified":"2012-02-23T09:19:02","modified_gmt":"2012-02-23T14:19:02","slug":"more-joy-than","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ordinarylegacy.com\/word\/2012\/02\/23\/more-joy-than\/","title":{"rendered":"More joy than\u2026.."},"content":{"rendered":"

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Decisions are one of those things that always seem to be tinged with either worry or joy.<\/p>\n

Just recently I received a call from a dear friend who had finally made the decision to resign from a job that was running her ragged.\u00a0 It was a good and exciting job that fulfilled that part of her that has always worked and been extremely successful at anything she\u2019s ever touched.\u00a0 She is dynamic, incredibly talented and unmistakably in charge.\u00a0\u00a0 She is also over sixty so jackassing up and down the East Coast calling on OEMs isn\u2019t exactly what she had in mind after she retired (maybe too early) \u00a0from her last job.\u00a0 But the lure of the money and the excitement of the start-up were irresistible.<\/p>\n

Fast forward to an instant when you realize the time with your Mother may be running short, your grandchildren might not see you often enough, your family leaves messages on your cell phone instead of Skyping and you\u2019re sitting in an airport waiting for a delayed flight and the lightning bolt hits.\u00a0 Still the decision is\u00a0difficult to make.\u00a0 What will tip the scales more, the worry or the joy?<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve made some very big decisions in my life and each time I\u2019ve agonized for far too long and become far too enmeshed in the decision making process to the point where I was unable to act.\u00a0 These were decisions that were to be made strictly for myself , they may have been for my good and yet the worry far outweighed the joy and I hesitated.\u00a0He who hesitates and all that\u2026<\/p>\n

What does that tell you about how you feel about yourself?\u00a0 Where does the worry come from?<\/p>\n

Then there have been times when I was put in a position to make decisions for others.\u00a0 These have been the source of my biggest regrets.\u00a0 My Sister and my Father both had to live with decisions I made for them and to this day I question the outcome.\u00a0 The decision to have a portion of my Father\u2019s colon removed ultimately resulted in his death from sepsis. Why couldn\u2019t he have lived with a questionable polyp, he was almost 80 years old and suffering from dementia.\u00a0 I knew it was the wrong decision when he awoke from anesthesia and not only didn\u2019t know me but was frightened by me.\u00a0 How prophetic. What if?\u00a0 I\u2019m learning everyday not to go there.\u00a0 But sometimes I do.<\/p>\n

Decisions happen every day, some are benign and some life changing.\u00a0\u00a0 Amelia Earhart said, \u201cThe most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward.<\/p>\n

So now I approach things differently.\u00a0 When I\u2019m up against the decision making process I pay attention to the tip of the scales.\u00a0 Worry gets me more things to worry about.\u00a0 Joy brings me more joy.\u00a0 I\u2019m glad my friend made the decision she did.\u00a0 She is still dynamic, incredibly talented and unmistakably in charge\u2026of herself.\u00a0 Her job never defined that and she had joy in her voice when she called to tell me of her decision\u2026.and just a tiny bit of worry but not enough to tip the scales.<\/p>\n

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