{"id":2107,"date":"2014-10-12T16:25:26","date_gmt":"2014-10-12T20:25:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ordinarylegacy.com\/word\/?p=2107"},"modified":"2014-10-12T16:25:26","modified_gmt":"2014-10-12T20:25:26","slug":"my-mothers-italian-curse","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ordinarylegacy.com\/word\/2014\/10\/12\/my-mothers-italian-curse\/","title":{"rendered":"My Mother’s Italian Curse"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\u201cSooner or later in life, we will all take our own turn being in the position we once had someone else in.\u201d \u2015 Ashly Lorenzana<\/p>\n

This has been the week of the girls upstairs.\u00a0 My great reckoning that, truly, what goes around comes around.\u00a0 One of the girls is little, 16 months old, the other around 5.\u00a0 I don\u2019t know their names yet but I know like I know that the older is some reincarnation of the reason why I don\u2019t have children.\u00a0 I was that girl; the one who could throw a tantrum at a moment\u2019s notice with the veracity of a studied lunatic.\u00a0 These were no ordinary tantrums they came complete with the true belief in the injustice that was being thrust upon me by\u2026whatever, whoever.\u00a0 They had screaming, crying, hair pulling, foot stomping and the throwing of oneself on the floor.\u00a0 Kid you not. They are the reason my mother would turn, usually calmly, and issue the Italian curse; you should have children just like you<\/a>.\u00a0 Oh no you don\u2019t, watch this I vowed. \u00a0And years later I became the favorite Aunt and all was well.\u00a0 Until now.<\/p>\n

The upstairs Momma is genius, she leaves for work early and Dad gets the girls ready for the day.\u00a0 Older girl wants none of it.\u00a0 Every morning, I mean every morning.\u00a0 As I\u2019m making my coffee she begins to escalate into a fervor that can only be described as a percolation into boil over.\u00a0 They are right above my kitchen, stomping and carrying on as if she is being tortured, which in the scheme of this five year old who boasts a princess on board sticker on the car, the latest outfits, and her own music (can we shut Brittney Spears up for just a minute? Really?), seems unlikely. \u00a0\u00a0Dad is amazing, quiet, calm, going about the duties of the morning.\u00a0 I can just picture him stepping over her toward the door and waiting at the bottom of the stairs for her to stomp down.\u00a0 And stomp she does, all through the house.\u00a0 In the kitchen she stomps so hard that my kitchen light blinks.\u00a0 In their bedroom, above my office, she stomps so loud that Lina dives under my desk where I\u2019ve put two cushions for her to sleep on.<\/p>\n

In her moments of distain for the little one she can lash out with the standard, I hate you.\u00a0 She will scream at whoever will listen (and that\u2019s everyone when the windows are open) she\u2019s not the good one\u2026I know, I know I still say that my sister is the good one.\u00a0 Because, well, this really didn\u2019t happen from her.\u00a0 And then there are the moments when she turns on the little one, in any number of ways, and the little one begins to cry.\u00a0 That completely devastated sobbing that is the thing that will haunt big sister many years from now.\u00a0 I know like I know.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t get angry at all this morning chaos, it only lasts a short time, but I do get nostalgic in that I wish I had behaved differently kind of way when I was a kid.\u00a0 In that how in the world did my parents ever talk to me again once I passed that stage? In that I will never forget the look on my sister\u2019s face when I hit her and it took about three minutes for the tears to actually come out of her eyes.\u00a0 God she was being brave but shit was that a crappy thing for me to do. \u201cYou have to appreciate where you have come from to know who you are in the present and who you would like to be in the future.\u201d \u00a0\u2015 Truth Devour<\/p>\n

What I actually do is pray every morning now, for those girls, for those parents.\u00a0 I have come to realize the power of that particular Italian curse and that even though you think you got over somehow you didn\u2019t even come close.\u00a0 And I pray that I have amassed enough Karmic equity so they move along from this stage quickly.<\/p>\n

Amen.<\/p>\n

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