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<\/a><\/p>\nThe great gift of conversation lies less in displaying it ourselves than in drawing it out of others. He who leaves your company pleased with himself and his own cleverness is perfectly well pleased with you. Jean de la Bruyere\u00a0<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/em>One of my best legacy lessons is to be someone\u2019s first call.\u00a0 I was someone\u2019s first call this week and it was joyous.\u00a0 When someone dear to you has had a fine day doing something new in a place that will soon be called home and they call to tell you all about it you have entered a special place in their heart.\u00a0 When only you would understand the joy they feel riding home in the dark after a day filled with new people and places you have met them where they are.\u00a0 When there is more listening than talking on your part, when the laughter and tears fill the same conversation, when everyone hangs up feeling heard new roads have been traveled together. When you can\u2019t stop smiling hours after the conversation ends you know like you know that forever is now.<\/p>\n I was someone else\u2019s first call after arriving home from some very long and wonderful travel.\u00a0 Meet we must in our usual place the sooner the better. And so we did among the lunch crowd, minus our usual server in a crowded neighborhood pub. Catching up on the fun and laments of the months we\u2019d been apart, laughing and concerned, a tear or two, many more\u00a0laughs and quips and hugs later we take a breath and notice there is no one left in the place.\u00a0 Such is the joy of being together.<\/p>\n Someone\u2019s first call of the morning; you in today? On my way in now.\u00a0 Then it will be worth it for me to come down.\u00a0 Every once in a while you meet a new old friend.\u00a0 Someone that has traveled your road walked your walk and thinks your think\u2026even though you just met.\u00a0 They have some of what you don\u2019t and you have something too and you pick up where you left off even though you\u2019ve just begun.\u00a0 You love their family and they know what you\u2019re thinking from the words you\u2019ve written.\u00a0 It\u2019s glorious and seldom that this comes along.\u00a0 It is a blessing full of exchanging ideas and ideology and technical blah blah that you would never ask anyone else for fear of being\u2026.something.<\/p>\n Someone\u2019s first call to someone else can be a delight for you as well.\u00a0 Long overdue we meet at another usual place midway between three here and theres. My Sister\u2019s boy is her light at any moment he is near her.\u00a0 He is precious in his sweetness and love for her.\u00a0 He is spoiled because he is such a wonderful about to be teenager with none of the manic depressive drama to be seen\u2026yet. We three adults share a bond that can never be broken, made of unspoken words, sleeping on the floor and just being within whisper range of each other at the lowest point of our lives to date. Those days behind us we revel in our time around the table and in this child.\u00a0 He is a nonstop delight and can talk to his Aunt incessantly.\u00a0 Aunt Terri remember when\u2026Aunt Terri remember\u2026Aunt Terri yeah I like rap\u2026such and such and Lil Wayne,\u00a0 whatever happened to Lil Wayne\u2026how could we not laugh and delight in this wonderful kid who just asked his 52 year old Aunt, who\u2019s only knowledge of rap is on a door, whatever happen to Lil Wayne.\u00a0 And so the night went with its constant stream of Aunt Terri\u2019s, a new menu that caused all the food to be late, an amazing and funny server who kept everyone from being hangry\u2026a night to remember because of course we all smiled all the way home.<\/p>\n These weren\u2019t just conversations they were inscriptions on our hearts.\u00a0 Warmth and sharing and oh yeah there were words too.\u00a0 One of Yogi Berra\u2019s nuggets of wisdom, \u201cIt was impossible to get a conversation going, everybody was talking too much\u201d might have rung true this week were it not for the satisfaction had by all.\u00a0 Everyone was completely pleased with our cleverness and each other. It was conversational perfection because we talked in present tenses<\/a>.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The great gift of conversation lies less in displaying it ourselves than in drawing it out of others. He who leaves your company pleased with himself and his own cleverness is perfectly well pleased with you. Jean de la … Continue reading <\/a><\/p>\n<\/a><\/p>\n<\/a><\/p>\n<\/a><\/p>\n