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<\/a>The art of the compliment, both giving and receiving, is essential to making your way in the world.\u00a0 It gets you out of your sense of entitlement and brings you a human barometer of how you\u2019re doing. \u00a0You don\u2019t have a sense of entitlement you say\u2026do you know how to accept a compliment with grace?\u00a0 The \u201call in a day\u2019s work\u201d line isn\u2019t it, the \u201coh I just slapped this together\u201d line isn\u2019t it, so how does one accept praise from others in the spirit of knowing that\u2019s what you\u2019re working toward while not wanting to seem conceited or dismissive?<\/p>\nDon\u2019t deflect.\u00a0 If someone is taking the time to voice that they\u2019ve noticed your accomplishment, or found you engaging, or are happy for you or, or, or, don\u2019t insult them by diminishing their praise. Now what do they do?\u00a0 You\u2019ve put them in an awkward position by making them second guess their choice.\u00a0 And you know what, continue to deflect and watch the number of compliments your receive decline.<\/p>\n
Nothing makes me unhappier than to watch people shy away from compliments.\u00a0 I love giving them. I met a woman getting into an elevator recently that had the best red shoes ever.\u00a0 I couldn\u2019t wait to gush about them and she needed the boost to be quite honest. She started at really, you think so? And went on to I can\u2019t believe you noticed them to I love them and everyone else is all they\u2019re not really you.\u00a0 She walked in head down and walked out all full of her red shoes, she worked them pretty good after that, all the way through the lobby.\u00a0 Good for her.<\/p>\n
I love compliments; it\u2019s truly my barometer of how I\u2019m doing out there. That, and thank you cards, sustains me through the year.\u00a0 I\u2019ve even got a top five list of them I reflect on when I\u2019m not thinking that much of myself:<\/p>\n
5. You never go somewhere the same way twice; you get from one place to the other differently than anyone else.\u00a0 Love that! Because I am my father\u2019s daughter, he explored every time he went somewhere. If I can take the \u201clong way home\u201d I almost always will because that was such an integral part of being with him.<\/p>\n
4. You got a way of looking at things.\u00a0 I sure do, I learned long ago that perspective is all you\u2019ve got and as many times as mine has changed it has never strayed from the core of who I am.<\/p>\n
3. Your home is so three dimensional.\u00a0There is so much to look at.\u00a0Our family friend, Jeanette, taught me that if you surround yourself with things you love that they will always match. If all I\u2019m doing in my home is paying homage to her then I am happy but really if you\u2019re not walking into your home and exhaling at the same time isn\u2019t something\u00a0wrong.\u00a0 If you\u2019re going to rejuvenate anywhere, shouldn\u2019t it be your home?<\/p>\n
2. There is a woman I work with that always greets me in such a way that I know she\u2019s truly happy to see me.\u00a0 Her compliment sticks with me every day whether I\u2019m in work or not. She said I\u2019m always so happy when you\u2019re here.\u00a0 It\u2019s like having to go to a family event and finding out that fun cousin that everyone likes to sit next to is going to be there!\u00a0 If I could have that effect on everyone I meet it would make me so joyful, it would mean I\u2019m doing things right.<\/p>\n
1. You can slap someone so hard they think they got a kiss.\u00a0 I know, it doesn\u2019t really sound like a compliment but it is.\u00a0 If you can have the hard conversations with people and they can walk away feeling good about themselves, and you, then that\u2019s a compliment.\u00a0 I received this bit of insight from someone in the Foodservice business many, many, many years ago and it not only stuck with me but became part of who I am.\u00a0 When defending people who work for you, when defending your position, when \u201ccounseling\u201d the most thick headed in the bunch if you can stand your ground in such a way that you get what you need without destroying a relationship or a person\u2019s morale you are indeed blessed.\u00a0 I summon this bit of wisdom up whenever I can and hope that it will continue to serve me for the rest of my life.<\/p>\n
The next time someone compliments you, simply, say, thank you.\u00a0 Take it in and use it over and over again.\u00a0 The more of these you receive the better off you, and others around you, will be because you\u2019re doing the right thing.\u00a0 As an added bonus those people noticing and doling out those comments will continue to do so keeping your barometer steady and on course.\u00a0 I know like I know.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
The art of the compliment, both giving and receiving, is essential to making your way in the world.\u00a0 It gets you out of your sense of entitlement and brings you a human barometer of how you\u2019re doing. \u00a0You don\u2019t … Continue reading