{"id":1167,"date":"2012-12-06T06:24:56","date_gmt":"2012-12-06T11:24:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ordinarylegacy.com\/word\/?p=1167"},"modified":"2012-12-05T20:32:45","modified_gmt":"2012-12-06T01:32:45","slug":"hello","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ordinarylegacy.com\/word\/2012\/12\/06\/hello\/","title":{"rendered":"Hello"},"content":{"rendered":"

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I\u2019ve never been good at goodbyes she said, and now I know that he isn\u2019t either.\u00a0 I don\u2019t know why that reply to a recent blog post is sticking in my head.\u00a0 I think my fear is that knowing you\u2019re not good at goodbyes might hold you back from the hellos.\u00a0 I can\u2019t think of two people more destined to say hello than these two people.\u00a0 I don\u2019t know them nearly as well as I know their energy, especially hers.\u00a0 It has depth and breadth and magnitude. They are made of circumstance and substance.\u00a0 I know, I am too.<\/p>\n

But I\u2019m good at goodbyes.\u00a0 I\u2019ve said goodbye to people, dogs (both living and dead), places that I thought were mine (but not so much), perfect kitchens, cottages that could easily be moved to the Cape, and a life that was far too hard to live.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m good at a certain kind of hello, the kind that gets people to talk to me about themselves and their stuff. \u00a0\u00a0The kind of hello that puts a room at ease while putting insulation around me I can pull off pretty well.\u00a0 People always say hello to me, always. My friend Sandra says, \u201cIt\u2019s the face\u2026\u201d.<\/p>\n

I had a huge Ah Ha moment the other morning while walking the dogs.\u00a0 Down the street came our friend Steve and his dog Karma (yes the dog\u2019s name is Karma) and the girls lunged.\u00a0 Tails wagging, happy crying and woofing and it occurred to me that they weren\u2019t lunging to attack, they just didn\u2019t know how to say hello.\u00a0\u00a0 Oh no.<\/p>\n

Do I know how to say hello?\u00a0 Saying hello to someone standing right in front of you, for no other reason than to make their acquaintance, can be difficult if your capacity to trust has been diminished.\u00a0 What will their reaction be?\u00a0 Will they like you?\u00a0 Are they what they appear to be?\u00a0 Question after question go through your mind at lightning speed and somehow the hello never comes out of your mouth.<\/p>\n

Goodbyes are based mostly in the fact that people change.\u00a0 If you changed, if they changed, someone changed.\u00a0\u00a0 Hello brings the promise of things changing, something going right, things falling together.\u00a0 Marilyn Monroe said it best, \u201cI believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.\u201d<\/p>\n

Not entirely sure that I should follow her philosophy but I get it.\u00a0 It\u2019s the yin and yang.\u00a0 So now what?\u00a0 Practice practice practice?\u00a0 Examine your motivation?\u00a0 Take a chance?\u00a0 All these things require courage and a certain vulnerability that will come in time if only\u2026you can learn to trust someone other than just yourself.<\/p>\n

Trusting in myself, oh OK that\u00a0I get it.\u00a0 There is a saying from my old life, what\u2019s the worst that can happen?\u00a0 Too often in my old life I found out exactly what the worst was that could happen.\u00a0 But now, with every week and month and year that goes by I can see what the best is that can happen.\u00a0 I just gotta know like I know that hello won\u2019t bite me in the ass.\u00a0 There it\u2019s out there.
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