{"id":1037,"date":"2012-09-26T17:58:15","date_gmt":"2012-09-26T21:58:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.ordinarylegacy.com\/word\/?p=1037"},"modified":"2012-09-26T17:58:48","modified_gmt":"2012-09-26T21:58:48","slug":"thirty-years-ago-today","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ordinarylegacy.com\/word\/2012\/09\/26\/thirty-years-ago-today\/","title":{"rendered":"Thirty Years Ago Today"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Do you know what you were doing thirty years ago today?\u00a0 I know exactly what I was doing and where I was and who was there.\u00a0 I played the best racquetball set I ever had on Sunday morning, September 26th<\/sup>, 1982.\u00a0 A girlfriend and I had a knock down drag out tight scored game like never before.\u00a0 I dove, I smashed, and I served up some of the best lobs ever.\u00a0 It lasted over two hours and I walked away the victor.<\/p>\n

To say this is amazing is an understatement because I am not athletic.\u00a0 I\u2019m not a klutz and I wouldn\u2019t call myself too uncoordinated but this kind of thing usually isn\u2019t my style.\u00a0 Somehow racquetball did it for me and I was pretty good at it and I played often.\u00a0 In my twenties I played almost every day at lunch and yes I was tiny.\u00a0 Not just short the way I am now but tiny. Like 115lbs tiny.\u00a0 Stop laughing its true.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m really more a walker and a dancer (back in the day anyway, and I had the hair to prove it) but athletics just weren\u2019t my thing so this was a very sweet win. No injuries, no pulls, no bouncing off the walls and jamming my shoulder, ok maybe a little pull. Fabulous. Put me in just the right mood to get married later on that day.<\/p>\n

Oh yeah and I got married on September 26th<\/sup> thirty years ago today.\u00a0 It was a lovely, small affair and I danced with everyone there.\u00a0 It was a beautiful fall day and everything went as planned.\u00a0 I walked my father down the aisle, we brought tears to our mother\u2019s eyes, and we said everything we wanted to say and meant every word of it. Everyone knew it would be a wonderful journey to see us through to our old age. Everyone knew it.\u00a0 Everyone.<\/p>\n

And for quite a while it was a wonderful life.\u00a0 It was us against the world, the crazy Italian family, the circumstances thrown our way and we had everything life had to offer.\u00a0 Then it wasn\u2019t a wonderful life, the circumstances became a heavy load and we couldn\u2019t bear it any longer.\u00a0 Himself (as Cookie so aptly named him) succumbed to addiction and I succumbed to isolation.\u00a0 Both trying desperately to fight our way out but caught in the mire.\u00a0 No one\u2019s fault, no bad feelings.\u00a0 As far as I know, to this day I\u2019ve never said a bad word about himself; he did the best he could.\u00a0 I did the best I could but what I didn\u2019t know then was that was not good enough.\u00a0 What I was doing didn\u2019t help either of us and I\u2019m sorry I stayed as long as I did.\u00a0 Not for the reasons you think, but because had I left sooner we might have been saved sooner, recovered sooner.\u00a0 Who knows how it all would have turned out?<\/p>\n

I left racquetball because I wasn\u2019t good enough.\u00a0 I left my marriage because I discovered I was good enough and deserved more. I believed I was good at racquetball; turns out everyone passed me by, my abilities were limited.\u00a0 I believed in my marriage and stayed a very long time, turns out life passed me by, my intentions were good but the road to hell was indeed paved with them.<\/p>\n

Where are we now after four years since we\u2019ve divorced?\u00a0 Himself is doing well, working hard at life and its simple rewards. He keeps in touch and frankly he is still my favorite brother of that family. After a lifetime with someone there are still some things that only they will understand and thankfully we can talk. I\u2019m doing well too.\u00a0 I believed when I left that I would crawl first, then walk perhaps soar.\u00a0 I get closer every day.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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